Sharing your dream to travel

Telling others of your plans to go

Once you have decided to go, and you have told your child, work out who is next.
I started ‘hinting’ with ‘maybes’ to a few people.
Then I spoke to his teacher.
Then I told a couple of close girlfriends – one who cried!
I also told my family I was selling up and going overseas.
Let me tell you now to expect mixed results.
I loved my sister Glenda’s response “Go for it, you deserve it”.  Encouragement like this is not always what you will get at the start, but it is a wonderful encouragement.
People want you to plan your next 20 years.
They will want you to have your child’s private education and college fund sorted.  Some of their goals are un-obtainable as a single parent – especially if you are not financially supported by the other parent of your child.
So think out a few answers to the curly questions that will be shot at you like fire-darts.
What you really need to be sort in your head is the reasons WHY you want to go, WHERE you want to go, WHEN you ant to go, and HOW LONG you want to travel.
Expect opposition.
NOW is time to get thick skinned!
Little old ladies will tell you it is a shame your kid will grow up dumb. They won’t.
Others will tell you of children coming back from years of overseas travel, and being so much brighter than their peers, they will skip a grade.
What your child will learn while they are away, is up to you – and the child.
Your child needs to firmly grasp they have a responsibility to study when you travel.
If you practice this and make it part of life before you leave, the transition will be easier.
“The world is going to be my classroom” as my son wisely told me last night.
What you want to remember is you are an adult, and you have made this wise decision after thought, and goal planning.
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©Exploramum and Explorason – Dance in the rain
You are free to live your life the way you want.
Your dreams are not others dreams, they are unique to you.
Many who think you are nuts, live in their cottages, with white picket fences, and have 2.2 children!
They ooze stability.
You crave adventure.
They live routine.
You are ready for the next chapter of life.
Now start to spend time with people who motivate and encourage you!
People who believe you can be what you want to be, and do what you want to do.
I was blessed with a mother (God rest her soul), that always reared us to be free to follow any career path we chose, as long as we were happy.  What a woman!
The worst if you are selling your home is that is all you will be asked is “has your house sold yet?”
I wish I had kept that part more of a secret – as it is quite draining to keep replying “not yet”.
But each open inspection is one step closer to a sale, so I tell my son.
Take your time to prepare for your trip, and take your time to tell people.  You may want to keep it a secret for a while – I did!
The end $$ in your hand is very important.
So is the planning, and preparation.
Stick to your plan, and do not be swayed by others persuasions.
If you want to start a new chapter of life, and not keep your home because it is too much work, then don’t.
If you want to sell your car and buy a new one later when you return, do.
This is your time.
People love to give advice – like me – but do what is right for you.
This is your dream.  
This is your adventure. 
Live the life you imagined.

12 comments

  1. We leave on the 3rd December as a family of four for our year off, first stop Thailand … Initially planned to be a year but you never know, can’t wait to let go of all the things that drag you down.

    1. So pleased to hear you are travelling. There is a great Facebook group called Families On The move with all families travelling long-term around the world. You might wish to join. Travel is wonderful. Just remember that the journey is educational. Whilst you think it is not formal education, wait a while and suddenly it will all click into place and you will be amazed at what your children learn and remember. Happy travels from Exploramum and Explorason

  2. Hi exploramum! I am now in my way to port augusta with Linton who recommended I read you blog as I am travelling in Australia for a month before heading back home to the Caribbean!

  3. Thank you for such an inspiring message. I ideally want to go exploring with my two boys. As a single mum who already home schools one of her sons, I already get a lot of the poo pooing, so a little more won’t matter haha. I’m working on the finance side of things at the moment to make it a reality within the next 18 months. I love your site.

    1. Hi – I am here to encourage you anytime. It is an amazing experience and there are way more parent out there traveling full tome than you realise ! Don’t owe sight of the dream 🙂

  4. It is so strange that we found you because I have always been a wanderer & my husband a settler. We did everything right bought the houses, cars, things & thought we were happy but it was always wanting the next thing that happiness was in the next thing, but it wasn’t. We had a miscarriage last year & it stopped me in my tracks, I was broken & nothing could make me feel better, my husband wanted so desperately to make it better WITH STUFF! I wanted him, I wanted to get out of this place even Australia. My husband has a great job & makes great money but we are drowning. I have been looking to move overseas for 3-6months a year to explore Asia as it is cheap & he can work a few months & we can afford to live. I am so ready to get but he is the planner. We are selling 2 of our homes to pay out most our loans, so we can save some money cause at the moment the bank owns us. I am making the steps to us living a more for filling life but I need some resources so I can have answers to all the questions. All our friends are but property work forever never live because our retirement will be great but tomorrow is never promised you only have today & it could be your last. Our baby was so wanted & we did everything right & we lost them, we have done everything that society expects from us but I keep thinking there must be more to life than this! Any advice, links, forums anything will help us so much! Thanks you are an inspiration

    1. Hi Katie – Thanks for reaching out and for sharing. I can relate as it took me 10 years to fall pregnant and a miscarriage in the 4th month and it was like my world was empty. With time it is still never forgotten. All I can say is do what is right for you. Never do what others “expect” of you or what they “think” is right, correct, or should make you happy. I think the greatest happiness in travel is still helping the poor and seeing life without .things’. Possessions do not fulfil. We just had a big cull of all the things we have hoarded around Europe for the last year in the car and gave bags and bags of stuff away. And it was so hard to make the decision. Once in the bags and given, it lightens the load. My advice, write down your goals. Don’t tell too many til the plane ticket is bought. And go and follow your dreams. Life can change in the blink of an eye. You only have one life, so time to go and live it from your heart. HUGS x

  5. Thank you so much! The plan is to do a bit of Asia exploration this year then a 3-8month trip thru Europe next year for our wedding anniversary. Once we are away I think my husband will want to stay away, he loves his work though. We are vegans so we are used to people thinking we are weirdo so this will be just another Katie being a hippy thing!!

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